Wednesday, November 11, 2009
I'm Such an Evil Mom (Warning: RANT)
I refuse to let my daughter miss school to get her driver's license (no, that is not mine or any other living person's real ID). If she's sick, she needs to stay home. If she's not sick, she needs to go to school. I asked if they would be open the day after Thanksgiving when she doesn't have school.
"It doesn't matter, I'll be with my father."
"Your father can't take you?"
"You're going to make him do that, too? He paid for my driving lessons and is buying me a car. You make him do everything."
He paid a couple of hundred dollars for driving lessons. Big deal. I paid 2000 dollars for braces, 800 for cosmotology classes, 107 dollars for a letter jacket the school "awarded" her (the jacket was free but the patches cost 107 dollars), I'm spending my life savings to stay here and go to school instead of relocating to where the good jobs are so she doesn't have to move during her last 2 years of high school. I don't do anything at all.
OK, that last one is for me almost as much as it is for her. I need to get my degree. But I would move to someplace less expensive if I didn't have to think of her, too.
I think she should buy her own car. I'll give her a bicycle to ride around town until she can afford one. There are over a hundred miles of hike and bike trails here. She wouldn't have to ride on the street. The mall and half a dozen restaurants are within walking distance of our apartment so she doesn't even need a car or a bike.
I know she is only repeating what her father is telling her. He likes to do things for us and then complain about how I don't appreciate him. I didn't ask him to do anything. He always wants something in return. That is not generosity, that's an attempt to manipulate and control us.