Friday, December 11, 2009
Small Town vs Big City Dating
It was not possible to date more than one person without being labelled a slut. Everyone knew what everyone else was doing. Once you agreed to a date with someone, you didn't talk to any more guys until you broke up. If a guy was asking several girls out at once, they all found out and became angry.
When I got divorced and re-entered the dating pool, I was living in Houston - population 4 million. People here routinely date several people until it gets serious. Only then will they feel compelled to stop meeting others. That took a long time to get used to, and I'm still not completely comfortable with it.
It's completely unreasonable for me to tell Poker Guy he can't talk to that girl any more when I haven't known him very long and still am not sure if I even want him to be my boyfriend. I hate when I see her comments on his Facebook page, but I say nothing. I don't know why it's so weird for me, it just is...