I don't make good decisions when I drink. I don't drink beer or wine, I shoot Patron (tequila). I drink to get drunk. I don't have one or two shots, I have 3 or 4. Since I don't do this very often, no one thinks I have a drinking problem. I had a couple of experiences recently that have made me decide I need to quit, at least for a little while.
I went to see a live band with one of the Meetup groups and there was a new guy in the group that was cute, so I invited him to sit next to me and talk. He apparently thought it meant bite me hard enough to leave a bruise on my arm in the shape of teeth, wrap the beads I'm wearing around my neck and pull until they break. I thought he was funny at first, and didn't even realize he had bitten me until I found the bruise the next day. If I had been sober, I would have been a better judge of character.
I went to see my friend's band play at another club. They are looking for a new singer, and one of the guys auditioning for the job started hitting on me. Again, I had 4 shots of tequila and for some reason decided to leave with him. We went to another bar, where I think it's possible I had a fifth shot. I ended up at his apartment because I was too drunk to drive. One thing led to another and we ended up in bed. I'm over 21 and not in a committed relationship, so I don't feel guilty about that much. I was willing until he refused to wear a condom. I told him nothing else was happening unless he did. He did it anyway! I had to hit him to get him off of me! If that wasn't bad enough, I didn't leave. I stayed the rest of the night - another bad decision. He didn't try anything else after I hit him, but that was not a smart move.
My friends know these things happened to me, so I would have thought they would support my decision to take a break from drinking. They didn't. We went to a music festival and they kept trying to buy me drinks and insisting that I needed one because I didn't look like I was having a good time. I was having a great time listening to the bands until they started harassing me about not drinking. If I say I don't want a drink, I don't want a drink!
I'm the one without a drink. Do I look like I wasn't having fun? I think I enjoyed the festival more because I was sober. I didn't get sick, didn't lose my balance and fall in the mud, and I remember everything.