Monday, January 24, 2011

Curfew

CURFEW
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As my daughter was heading out to visit friends she asked if she still had a curfew, now that she's 18.  I told her after she graduated high school, got a job, and started paying rent she wouldn't have a curfew any more.

Should adult children living in their parent's homes have curfews?  

11 comments:

Tempo said...

I had my daughter(27) her other half and their 4 kids stay last year while they found a house in the area, it was only a month but I expected my place to be pretty much as it was before. If I had friends staying at my place it would be the same, some reasonable house rules are fair. As for an actual curfew...I wouldnt be happy about being woken at 3 in the morn by someones homecoming...reasonable rules!!

Vince said...

It's a question of worry. Your worry about her safety. It would be different if she had her own apartment then you wouldn't know.
I'd say lay down two hard and fast rules. One, if she feels unsafe she is to ring no matter what time of the day or night. Two, that if she 'isn't' coming home she ring you.

Brian Miller said...

as long as they are still under my roof...they will show respect...if they want more freedom, they can get a place of their own...

Oilfield Trash said...

If you are living under my roof enjoying the fruits of my labor, hell yes you have a curfew.

Christiejolu said...

I think you got it right...

Claire said...

wow it's times like this i'm thinking it's good not to have children ;)

Kelly said...

I've always told my kids, no matter how old they are or if I'm proving financial help or not... they owe me a certain amount of courtesy if they're staying in my home. That would include letting me know what time they plan to arrive home at night and to call if there is any change to that. Fortunately none of them have ever abused that rule.

grannybunny said...

I can't see setting a curfew for an adult; in fact, I have a problem with the state-imposed curfews on teens, too. However, I insist upon respect and consideration. My adult son and adult grandson live with me. They know what time I go to bed. If they're going to be out past that time, they let me know and try to enter quietly, so as not to disturb me. Similarly, they like to stay up late, but close the door and play their TVs softly, so as not to disrupt my sleep. I show them the same respect and consideration that I demand and expect from them. It's a 2-way street that has nothing to do with who pays for what.

ρομπερτ said...

How thoughtful an entry. Guess it is not that much a question of age, but of trust and knowledge of the where-abouts; a safe and quiet Wednesday for you all.

Shionge said...

Not actually a curfew for my two girls but they usually let us know when they will be back and if they are late due to traffic they will call to let us know too.

gayle said...

My girls are both in their thirtys and when they were living at home at that age they didn't have a curfew. I regret that I didn't have one for them. It caused me many sleepless nights worrying about them. If I had to do it over again I would have a curfew or at the very least they would let me know when they were coming home. As for pay rent they didn't. Not sure what I would do about that.

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